or how they felt about their partners.” Enlarge ImageDavid Duchovny in "Californication" plays a womanizing novelist in Los Angeles. David Duchovny in “Californication” plays a novelist in Los Angeles whose ability to woo any woman is described by one young male subject to author Peggy Orenstein as “convincing.”Jordin Althaus/Showtime Nate, a high-school junior from the San Francisco area, is terrified of sex because he’s certain the girls in his peer group already have more experience than him. “She’s going to know how to do things and you won’t,” he told Orenstein. “That’s a problem if she tells people you’ve got floppy lips or don’t know how to get her bra off.” He wants to have a girlfriend someday, but for now, Nate says, “I’m afraid of intimacy.” This paralyzing fear of sexual inadequacy begins for many boys with online pornography. Sexually explicit videos have never been so easy to find — a 2018 Bitdefender study found that 22 percent of online porn is watched by kids under the age of 10 — and it’s